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My 12 minutes labour experience

By on January 26, 2011

Warning, this gonna be a looonggg entry. You may stop reading when u get bored, this entry is to serve as a diary for myself.

Alhamdulillah i gave birth to my 3rd edition on Monday, 24th January at 1:10pm. Few days prior to that,  i did feel a lil discomfort at night. Everything is okay during the day but when its time for bed i’ll feel discomfort here and there. Discomfort yg cam perut tegang memulas semacam tu..but it goes off when i wake up the next morning.

But on Monday morning, as i woke up for my Subuh prayer, the discomfort was still there. syauQi ade exam that day, didn’t want to worry him and distract his attention from the exam. Told him i wasnt sure ni sakit perut or contraction since i had that kind of sakit perut few days before.He was like “ha jgn pulak kang tetiba msg i…”. I told him dont worry, i’ll only message u after ur paper abis.  I then monitored to see if it was consistent. It was still there, come and go. I had few errands to run that day. Instinct said i’ll be going for my labour that day. hArith ade runny nose, he wont allow athirAh to go to skool alone, thus no school for them. Decided not to send uZAir either, incase i go in labour, sape nk fetch him from skool.

After breakfast, at about to OU to get my customize party thingy printed. Thought of getting scones from Delicious before my confinement starts, tapi as i was walking towards Delicious with hArith, i felt the pain again. By then i was pretty sure it was contraction. Cancelled my plan to get the scones coz nak kena pegi Mailbox beli kotak pulak. I then text my gynae informing her, “Salam Prof, i think im having contraction, will get things ready and head to the hospital, insyaAllah. Hope you are around to sambut baby” (yup mane tau die meeting ker ape ade another doctor take over her duty). So off to Mailbox, another contraction there…was very sure its time then. Balik rumah, my parents were having their lunch told them lets go to the hospital. They thought cam baru start contraction kot…so they didnt really rush, went up to get change…mase tu i felt another contraction. Told them to hurry. Since I know parking will be difficult coz its lunch hour / visiting hours.hus i told them; takpe just drop me off, syauQi will come after his paper (his paper finishes at 1pm). Mom followed me up while bapak cari parking.

As i was entering the lift heading towards the ward, syauQi called. Time at my phone showed 12:51pm. Told him, line is bad coz im in the lift. He was like “huh lift? hello hello…hello”. “yup im in the lift nk gi ward”. He “okay2, call me back”. I called him to inform im already at the hospital. Smpai the counter, my Prof is already there. Apparently ade another person in labour dah 8cm. So since i text her, she was already expecting for me while waiting for the other gal to be 10cm dilated.

In UMSC, you will give birth in the room you are warded. They assigned me my room tp katil labour sume blum tukar. So they asked me to go and take my weight and BP dulu. As i wanted to do so, passed by the counter where Prof was sitted, she asked me, “brapa minit gap?” “four minues Prof, dah sakit ni” . I was asked to go to my room. Mase tu dah sakit, so i was told to baring on that katil first while they get things done. It was 12:58pm when i entered the room. Mase tu nk angkat kaki naik katil pun tak larat. Prof kate, takpe tunggu contraction abis then baru lift my leg up. Prof examine me to check brapa cm…she was like “errr ni 4cm, eh 5cm ni…once i ruptured your amniotic fluid sure laju je ni nanti” I replied “5cm? tp cam dah tak tahan dah ni”. And that was when i tweet:  5cm tapi baby dah nak kuar!!!

Prof was about to ruptured my amniotic fluid, i kept telling her…dah tak tahan ni!’ Prof knew it will be anytime soon…die dh suruh nurses get allt he trolley equipment sume masuk, baby warmer pun blum masuk lagi, reminded the nurse to call the paeds doctor. Everything was soo fast, i wasnt on anything. mmg tak sempat nk kasi pape sbb nurses and Prof were busy getting equipment ready.

Mase tu i was a lil dissapointed, i already visualized photos i wanted to take. Husband was not there yet. Camera was in the room but not within my reach. Mom was in the room, tapi behind the curtain. Dad managed to get parking space and waited outside the room. Apparently he said, the nurses took all the trolleys barang from the next door yg dah 8cm dilated. The mother of the gal wasnt happy..she was like eh knp amiq coz her daughter shuld be anytime since dah 8cm. My dad told her…tapi yg ni mmg dah nak kuar.

I was hoping to wait a lil longer coz i wanted syauQi to be around.  I wanted to take photo of him potong the umbilical cord. But i knew he wont be able to make it. He was from Kelana Jaya, parking confirm susah. I didn’t have much energy to push, lack of moral support i guess..hihi. Mase tu dah siap bawak battery operated fan sbb from previous pregnancy, biler nk deliver sure panas bepeluh despite the aircond.

Prof told me too push harder, i remembered telling her “tak larat”. Mase tu mmg tak sempat tukar katil. So i didnt have that thingy where u put ur leg up…so kaki bukak cam tu je (scroll down / stop reading if u think its too details..haha.) Prof told me “chin down” Then baru teringat…yes that’s the most important thing i kept telling people bile nk give birth. Ensure ur chin touches ur chest. When u are in that position, it’s easier to push BUT problem is, to lift ur chin so it touches ur chest need a hell lot of energy!!! Mase triplets pregnancy i had a nurse tolong support my head so my chin touched my chest. During uZair ‘s time, i had syauQi to lift my head. I tried lifting my head tapi tak larat. Prof told me again jgn dongak kepala…as i was trying to kumpul all the energy i have to lift head i told her “tolong..angkat my chin” but i was breathless…so word awal2 tu tak dgr, cume word “chin” je clear enough. It was more like…”bla bla bla chin”. Prof replied “takpe nk kencing, kencing je” i repeated, again the word chin je clear enough that came out from my mouth. After few times i repeated, message went tru, nurse help me lift my head, my chin was already touching my chest. Felt much better..started pushing again. Prof told me, baby is halfway there…i seriously didnt have much energy left. But i knew its dangerous if i delay it, ive heard a lot of cases baby lambat push tak cukup oksigen, i put together all the strength and give it another push. It wasn’t enough. Prof said “skit lagi”…another pushh….alhamdulillah, baby was out. Sempat suruh Prof pause kejap, grab my phone n took this pic.

They place baby on the warmer, paeds then took over. I called my mom who was behind the curtain to take the camera frm the bag and take some shoots. Mom took this photo

Called, syauQi to inform him baby is out. He was on his way, few minutes away. Prof told me ade koyak skit..i was doing fine cume my last push tu silap skit..needed stiches. As prof started stiching up, received a call from a fren, answered the call which later she tweeted this:

Though my writting seems long, in actual fact, all that haapen in 12 minutes. to summarize:

12:51pm: in the lift when syauQi called

12:58pm: entered the room

1:10pm: baby pops out

I was rather impressed with myself (maaf angkat bakul sendiri) I did it again wihout husband (mase triplets pun syauQi not around, he was in Melbourne but i had a team of nurses to cheered for me then) and another highlight of it was i did it wihout any help of epidural nor ethonox (I took the ethonox during triplets’ n uZAir’s) . I was conscious all the way. Mase nak stich up tu…half way nurse pass me the ethonox gas is case i need it. But i made sure, i didnt get total zombie with it, i wanted to be aware if syauQi entered the room, i wanted to know if paeds say anything about my newborn…hence i didnt make total use of the laughing gas. I was well alert of all conversation going on in the room between, the gynae, paeds, nurses and my mom.

Stiches all done, i was off the ethonox already by then. syauQi tak smpai lagi. They need to change me to a different room coz katil sume dh kotor since tak sempat tukar to labour bed. Soon after i transfered to next door, syauQi arrived, told him they tgh cuci kn they baby, so he pegi tgk and azankan though before that my dad dah azan since tak sure bile syauQi smpai. Few minutes later, the nurse wheeled my baby in 🙂

Some commented im a supermom…no im not. The true superhero is this fella…

I was telling him “hows that, at 28 years old, u have a wife and FOUR kids to support?” it surely sound tough to me, but alhamdulillah he is doing perfectly fine, fulfilling our needs and wants. We love u!!!

I told syauQi to balik rumah to fetch the other kids…

will continue in next post; reaction from the elder 2 upon seeing their lil brother…

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Potty Training

By on January 22, 2011

Im being very inconsistent for athirAh’s potty training. Alhamdulillah hArith graduated from it. As i mentioned before i aint have the enerygy to be consistent on her. I wanted to do same method as hArith but it’s almost impossible for athirAh. As for hArith, i woke up one day i decided to put him off the diapers bring him to the loo every 30mins and clean up the floor whenever he wet his pants. The prob with athirAh, she urinates often but very2 lil. it wont wet the floor…setakat seluar die je lembab2, n u wont know she dah urinate unless u rase her seluar baru sedar, dah basah then u have prob tak tau where she seated prior to that…because her pants is not really wet that it wont causes other places that she sat to be wet too. so jenuh kang najis satu rumah

so i have no choice but to let her wear her diapers and whenver i feel rajin i’ll bring her to the bathroom. Well, each time she urinates i would compliment her by saying ” wow very good!”. One day, she came to me and said “mommy athirAh nak very good”…i got confused. I then managed to figure it out…brought her to the toilet,placed her on the toilet bowl…after she urinate she said “athirAh dah very good”. It will be like that all the time…

So for now, instead of asking her “athirAh nak kencing?” it would be “athirAh nak very good?”

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At 37++ Weeks

By on January 16, 2011

This boy of mine have been such a darl through out my pregnancy. I’m sure he cant wait for baby January ( yup tat’s how he calls the baby) to pops out.

Give him a bottle of oil / lotion and he will be more than happy to rub it on my tummy (and i’ll have problem to get him to stop)

He have been my company for my gynae check-ups as this time around, syauQi’s roster is not on my side. Only once was he in town to accompany me.

He have a name for the baby (one of his schoolmate’s name, but err..both of us do not agree to that name, sorry hArith)

Lotsa people say they cant see my bump, especially during my bro’s wedding…all were asking where’s the bump. I guess it’s the camera or maybe the baju that does brilliant job hiding my bump..hihi

Here’s my bump at 37++ weeks, who can guess brapa inch lilitan perut saya? 😉

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Toddlers Bedtime

By on November 8, 2010

I think most parents sooner or later will go through a phase where their kid’s bedtime goes haywire. Among my friends who faced and are still facing this problem are azza and irin. And by looking at their comment box, i see other parents having the same problem.

I managed to get back the kid’s bedtime on track and i hope it stays this way. Previously we have problem where my kids will sleep around 11pm for the elder two and passed midnite for uZAir (latest being 2am, but average would be 12:45am). I have no idea where the kids get their energy. They wake up around 9-ish, NO NAP (they simply refused to have nap) during the day but yet they sleep late at night. Although their school starts at 9am, but since they get up late and by the time i get all 3 ready, they ended up going to school almost 10am. It was partly my fault for allowing them to wake up after 9am coz i took that opportunity to get some extra sleep too…haha

But after awhile i had to call it a stop. I became strict with their bedtime. I will pull them out of bed latest by 8am. No afternoon nap allowed and tv / laptop off by 730pm.

When i first stop uZair from breastfeed, we had few stages in putting him to sleep without breastfeeding. The 1st stage was to bring him on a drive until he falls asleep. But we couldnt continue that for long as it would be costly to pay the petrol since everyday we have to go for a minimum of 40mins drive. So the 2nd stage was to on The Wiggles on the laptop until he falls asleep by himself. Well, alhamdulillah that manage to divert him from asking for breastmilk BUT he ended up watching it pass midnite, full with energy jumping about to the music. Since the elder two were already asleep, that surely annoyed the elder two. Soon we put a stop to that too coz by then uZair dah adapt to the no breastfeeding, so we reckon we no longer need the distraction from bf and afterall the elder 2 need some peace to sleep.

However, uZair already have the music in his heart…he will be jumping about non stop, to the music that was playing in his head, and of coz, “singing” to. Or shall i say it was more of screaming than singing. He will be jumping and “singing” in the dark. Seriously i dare to say that uZair jump a total of at least 500 a day. I am not surprised if it reaches 1000 a day. He is really full of energy. I ended up being strict in his food diet making sure no sugar loaded food. I really have no idea where he gets his energy. We also stop him from taking milo.

I knew i had to do something about it, i then decided regardless how late they sleep the night before, i pulled them out of bed by 8am latest. No nap allowed during the day and that did help a lil, uZair ended up sleeping latest by 11pm as opposed to pass midnite.

(random pics of them during their playtime)

And past 2 weeks, the kids didn’t go to school due to runny nose. The weather been very kind, gloomy all the way. My kids have this habit where the minute they see weather is good, they will be standing in front of the door screaming “mommy, sun is hiding behind the cloud!!!!”, asking me to open it to play outside. For few days they were outside more often than inside. That really burnt out their energy. I stop them from having their afternoon nap (but in most cases mmg they hardly take afternoon nap), and by 730pm i could see they were really tired. I switch on the aircond, lights off, tv off…and by 9pm they were already asleep. I was like “wow”!!!. The following day, i pulled all 3 out of bed by 8am. Again, weather was good…so they ended up being outdoor a lot: by 9am they were outside till almost 12, came in for their lunch and at about 3pm they were out again till 6-ish pm. Same routine at night;  i switch off the tv and lights early and all retire to bed by 9-ish pm. After about a week of such routine..i no longer need to pull them out of bed by 8am coz even b4 8am…they were all awake by themselves. Alhamdulillah my 1 week effort paid off.

they sweat like a marathon runner, sgt “harum” ye! – tgk rmbut athirAh bepeluh2, kusut masai

When this new-bedtime-training-in-progress happened, syauQi was away for work, so we didnt go anywhere at night. Hence managed to stick to the routine. And since it is working perfectly well now, alhamdulillah, I tend to be strict on the no-going-out-at-night-policy. I wouldnt want to risk it: screwing up their bedtime again. Oh don’t get me wrong, when we used to go out at night (mostly to the in-laws) we usually be back by 10-ish, not that we bring them out till pass midnite.

However recently we had a dinner wedding to attend. I told syAuqi, wanna avoid from bringing the kids along. I managed to put the elder 2 to sleep b y 830am…but uZair refused to sleep. syauQi carried him hoping he fall asleep in his arm. But nope he didn’t. We were already running late. Had no choice but to bring uZair along, but the minute i change his clothes, he went to bed, toss and turn..showing sign that he wanted to sleep. We thought of leaving him behind but afraid he cry for us and ended up we have to balik. He then tag along with a very sleepy zombie looking face, some even said he looked as though he was on coughing mixture…hahaha.

abis bunga Pah kena petik

We didnt stay long for the wedding, by 10pm we made a move, the minute naik kereta…he fall asleep and alhamdulillah the next morning, he was up by himself by 730am 😀

Really hope this sleeping arrangement will continue for long. Gonna stick to the

  • no-going-out-at-night policy, lights and tv off by 730pm
  • pull them out of bed latest by 8am if they are not awake, regardless what time they slept the night before.
  • no afternoon nap. IF they happen to fall asleep during the day, i limit it to 1.5 hours and pull them out of bed when it reaches 1.5 hour

my “enegizer bunny”

I notice that it is always more successful to do a new routine / rules when the dad is not around. Just like when i wanted to wean them off from bottle. I did that when syauQi was not around. Partly because i had a total control of it and if tak bejaya pun syauQi is not around to laugh at me, hahaha. So i can do watever method i want and wats important is the end result upon his return :D. How i get to that point is a different matter..haha

**I think, maybe (yes, maybe) it is easier to get ur kid to sleep if she/he is the only child. coz u can just switch off the light and let him scream / cry as loud as he wants until she/he gets tired. I couldnt do that coz that will disturb elder’s 2 sleep, that y at the early stage i had to allow uZair to watch The Wiggles, to stop him from crying wanted breastmilk.

Oh lucky thing the wireless internet strength is strong enough, i can still surf the net outside while i monitor the kids at play…

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Pizza versus Roti Man

By on November 2, 2010

I just have to share this

I ordered pizza but the kids didnt know about it. As we were playing outside in the garden, they saw the pizza boy passed by the house. They quickly shouted “pizzza pizzza” . The man telajak rumah..and kids kept screaming  “pizza pizza pizza” . Obviously when the man realised he miss my house, he made a u-turn. Kids eyes were glowing when they saw the man came back, stop and took out 2 big boxes of pizza.


Oh ingat ni cam bai roti ke? boleh panggil2 pastu bai roti benti depan umah?

They really thought, the man stop and gave them pizza due to their shouting “pizza pizza pizzzza”

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