Posted by admin on Oct 23, 2014 in Uncategorized | 1 comment
Im not sure how to start this post, but as most of my readers know that i have premature born babies. They were born at 26 weeks weighing 760 gram and 600 gram. We were given a great length of briefing regarding premature babies by the doctors when they were in Special Care Nursery (SCN), we were told of the two end of spectrum that our kids might have. Alhamdulillah, they are growing beautifully, now age 7. If someone new to us, they wouldnt know the kids were born premature. They are just like any other 7 years old. However for my gal, she has some focus issue and errrr extremely untidy handwritting. Initially when she was in preschool, i didn’t take serious on that issue as i was assuming she took my genes on that matter. Harith on the other hand must have had the father’s genes on this matter. Somehow, there was a wake up call in regards to her handwriting when she went for an islamic private school assessment test to enter Year 1. Her handwriting were raised and plus few other issues, and we ended up not getting a slot in that school. Yup, how shocking it was to us…just because of handwriting it became a major concern and not getting a spot in the school. We tried being proactive in that matter, did some intensive cross patterning exercise (crawling) as suggested by the school principal and went again for an informal assessment test. again, the issue of her handwriting was raised. We were told to arrange for another written assessment test in a month time. And the day came, the school called me but i was busy and couldnt attend to the phone. The school called the husband instead…and he had enough of this unnecessary pressure. Told the lady that we no longer interested in that school.
So over the year (Year 1) she really had a terrible handwriting. I suspected it was because of her eyes. She did Retinopathy of prematurity (ROP) twice when she was 2 months old. She had lazy eye before and i came to realise she have problem doing eye tracking (where her eye balls are suppose to follow movement of my finger). We’ve been doing eye check up for her but it indicate no power. just slight astigmatism. I do notice she had problem to estimate the spacing of each letter. she would write ; th e bal l isr ed. (the ball is red). but now since her primary school made it compulsory to do cursive handwriting, she overcome that spacing problem coz each letter in a word need to be joined . she tend to write words close to each other though, inconsistency in spacing. Oh another thing i suspect was, she have problem copying from the whiteboard. Since whiteboard doesnt have lines, when she copies…she get lost half way, not sure where was the last word she copied. to look back and forth at the whiteboard and her exercise book was a major task for her. and automatically she got demotivated to complete a work from the whiteboard. it just took so much effort for her to copy the work.
However, something surprising happen;
This was her work on Thursday, her usual handwriting….
And on Saturday , yes just 2 days apart….she gave me this handwriting while doing her school homework.
I was so shocked. amazed at the improvement, mashaa Allah. I dont know how that happen. and the only additional thing i’ve been doing on her is applying essential oils. Since we started using essential oil on Uzair (will write a different post on that) i decided to get oil for her eyes. We are currently using the Young Living Essential Oil. Well i cant say for sure its the oil that helps her but yes thats the only different thing ive been doing on her. Oh there was something else happen. I had a general meeting with her principal. If it was not the oil, maybe perhaps because she got panic she might need to face the principal since she got to know i had a meeting with her principal. Besides her handwritting, she has better control of her eye balls too now. Alhamdulillah
Posted by admin on Oct 8, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments
I just realised i have this entry below as draft. wrote this post back in March!
I cant seem to keep to my words i guess, just after doing a blog post “I’m back” and the next thing i know, that’s like 2 months ago. Where have i been this time around. I did mentioned i stop uzair from EIP didnt i? We decided to do acupuncture on him, thus our days are pack with acupuncture sessions. We saw great improvements in uzair’s schoolmates (EIP) who went for acupuncture but i wasnt sure how do i handle him with needles on his head. How do i ensure he doesnt pull it out? As the year coming to an end last year, i saw friends putting up status on the FB of 2013 achievements and plans for 2014…all i could do was sit, ponder and pray for a better year for us. Honestly, i wasnt looking forward to 2014 coz it means uzair turning 6 years old. He is still non-verbal and has other developmental issues to tackle. We are supposed to start registering him for primary school by this year…oh how im not looking forward to that
Back to the acupuncture. As time is running out, and i see further improvement in uzair’s friend…i told the husband “lets give acupuncture a try”. Of coz, syauqi looked puzzle (im assuming he had in his head “how?”) I told him, by hook or by crook we just have to do it. We will and we can. (yes, that was my mantra). Had assessment with Master Leong of The Tole (www.thetole.org) and he told us to do intensively for 2 months, 3 sessions a day. Per session is an hour and between each sessions, it requires a 30 mins break. That means we gotta spend bout 4 hours at the centre daily. Master sound very optimistic, he told us to do the treatment for 2 months, and uzair will be “normal” (who are we to define normal though).
Yes , some hold to his words and when the kid is not showing expected progress they became angry. They felt cheated and considered it as false hope. As a muslim, i’m aware we can put in effort but at the end of the day it’s all with Allah’s willing. But of coz at the same time i really hope uzair can cure in that 2 months period.
So how’s the acupuncture sessions? The first day seems impossible…we held his hands, walk with him up and down the corridor. Syauqi had to dukung him and all. Second day seems a lil better. His long hair made things a lil more difficult, it disturbed the needle and we had to poke it again…and the crying would start all over again. After the second day, syauqi suggested uzair get his hair cut. It has always been difficult to cut his hair but we now learn it well…whenever something need to be done, we put aside all the what-if….just go ahead and deal with the situation. Surprisingly he had no problem having his hair cut. I was speechless. Syauqi was just too excited that he decided get uzair a crewcut. (i always prefer his hair long, but it has been syauqi’s wish to get uzair a crewcut)
We notice Uzair’s sensory issues improves since we started doing the acupuncture. He has Sensory Processing Difficulties / Disorders. He always scream whenever we put him on long pants. he only wants cotton. no other material. but thanks to this condition, i now know how sew simple shorts pants for my kids he also refused any polo tee. collar is also a big no no. So the day we could put him on jeans and shirt, i was jumping up and down so excited, haha.
After 2 months, we have cut the session to only once a day. it was rather costly to continue 3 sessions a day and also too tiring for me. i was running around like headless chicken with the logistic. Uwais was living like a nomad. most of the time we are on the road. we even have our meals in the car.
And now we are on Essential Oil for Uzair. Alhamdulillah, we do see noticeable improvement in him. not a big leap…but we are certainly happy with the difference we see in him. more to come insha Allah. We are using the Young Living Essential Oil. and i love the fact that I’m making our house more towards chemical and drugs free
Posted by admin on Sep 6, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments
The queue grew longer since the last time we came. another good “refresher course” for the kids.
This time around the kids learnt about “amanah”. Athirah was thirsty and asked for some drinks, while one of the volunteers mistakenly gave harith a kids’ goodie pack coz harith was mingling with the homeless kids.
told harith he has to return it back and explained to athirah why she cant have some drink. was telling them that Pertiwi received funds from the public to buy the foods and drinks for the homeless and urban poor, the amanah was given to Pertiwi to deliver those food n drinks to the receipients and since they are not among them, they shouldnt take any drinks or food.
Alhamdulillah kids managed to come out with various examples of amanah, to show they understood the lesson of the day.
And i on the other hand was happy to bump into my uni lecturer :). Glad that we decided to make the impromptu pit stop
Posted by admin on Sep 6, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments
Remember Happy, Bashful, Sleepy, Sneezy, Grumpy and Doc? Does these names ring any bell to you? Yup, the Seven Dwarfs!and they are coming to Astro 615 tomorrow! Yes you heard me right, Catch 7D to tomorrow , Sunday 7th September 615!
The series takes place in the whimsical world of Jollywood, where Queen Delightful relies on the 7D – Happy, Bashful, Sleepy, Sneezy, Dopey, Grumpy and Doc – to keep the kingdom in order. Standing in their way are two laughably evil villains, Grim and Hildy Gloom, who plot to take over the kingdom by stealing the magical jewels in the 7D’s mine. With seven very distinct personalities, the 7D always manage to save the day and send Grim and Hildy running back to their evil lair to try another day .
Dont forget to set your alarm, 11am 7th September! it surely brings back some childhood memories
Set your alarm ya!
Posted by admin on Jan 15, 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments
Two weeks of the new year has passed, how has it been for you? Is the rat race still on? Amongst the hustle and bustle of today’s busy society, we often tend to over commit ourselves by wanting to do just about everything and be everywhere at the same time, juggling between work, peers, family and “me” time. If we are often not making it to get-togethers, family outings, movie dates and the list goes on, then are we getting in to the habit of making empty promises a tad too often?
This year with elder two already started primary school, life surely gets even more busier. Logistic has always been a madness for me. There are days where all i have in mind is to get from place A to place B then to place C almost forgetting i have the kids in the car, rushing them around but forgotten i should use every minute i have with the kids effectively and treasure those moment even if we are stuck in the traffic jam. In fact i realised, in traffic jams we tend to have more quality time, we chat a lot more
I often see parents at the restaurant always hook with their phone while waiting for the food. Kids are either given a gadget too or being “ignored” by the parents who seems so engaged with his / her phone. Couple of times i notice the parents are on Facebook / instagram / twitter, not so much of work related. Im sure that can be put aside while u are with your kids.
Lets step up and turn things around today by making a pledge on the Kleenex® Wall of Softness – a bold new reminder that even small gestures mean a great deal to the people in your life.
“Kleenex® is synonymous with softness, I would like to invited blog readers to pledge an act of softness in your everyday lives. hence we constantly champion the importance of softness in the everyday lives of consumers,” said Soo Woon Yee, Marketing Director, Kimberly-Clark. “The Kleenex® Wall of Softness takes the Share the Softness campaign to a whole new level, making a bigger, bolder statement that we need to make acts of softness a priority by pledging to do something nice for our loved ones, and not just in words, but committing ourselves to fulfil those promises to the important people in our lives.”
Joining Kleenex® to spread acts of softness by making the very first pledges on the Kleenex® Wall of Softness are local celebrities – philanthropist and World Vision’s Child’s Rights advocate Deborah Henry and award-winning actress Sharifah Amani.
To me…softness is my kids checks :). I will play WITH my kids. Yes, to play with them…not just to sit, facilitate and watch them but rather to participate along…not while on the phone / facebook / twitter / instagram and such but yes to be involved. Lets do that, fully engaged, and fully theirs. To enter their world of imagination.
The other day i found few fabrics i could make do with, sew up a mini puppet theatre for the kids. I told them to create any story, any. Their imagination were simply amazing!
Why not take a minute of your busy life, sit and ponder and think of a pledge. Make a change. Join Kleenex®, Deborah Henry and Sharifah Amani to pledge an act of softness today on www.facebook.com/Kleenex.Malaysia – all you have to do is make your pledge, and first 100 daily pledgers will get a free Kleenex® soft pack! Next, share a photo of you fulfilling your pledges and stand a chance to win a holiday worth RM3,000 plus RM2,000 of spending money!
The Kleenex® Share the Softness campaign will run from 20 November 2013 till 15 January 2014 and aims to achieve 5,000 pledges, upon which Kleenex® will spread the softness to the underprivileged children of the Fugee School with a cash donation of RM10,000. Through this campaign, Malaysians will be reminded to bring softness into each other’s lives, and also to the lives of needy children in the Fugee School, a non-profit charity organisation that provides basic education to refugee children from Somalia.
As my kids are always up to something, be it playing the mud or running around sweating, having the Kleenex®, the world’s No.1 facial tissue is just ideal, softness, gently cleanses all skin types. Every sheet is made from 100% quality virgin fiber that leaves no residue behind to reduce skin irritation. This ensures not only clean skin, but gentle care and finest hygiene for you and your family. Kleenex® tissues, are available in both facial and bath tissues and in a variety of attractive and convenient packaging formats, distinctive for their ideal softness, strength and absorbency. I usually carry the soft pack around with me in my handbag
dont forget to make your pledge and hashtag #kleenexsoftness
Posted by admin on Dec 30, 2013 in Uncategorized | 1 comment
2013 is coming to an end, Alhamdulillah we made it through with lotsa memories. Making lotsa dua’ 2014 will be even better year for us all. As promised in previous post, i mentioned i will made a post on the decision I made for sending elder 2 for standard 1 sekolah agama KAFA. When i went there end last year to register them, i was told they also have preschool KAFA, but i asked if its okay i wanna place them in primary 1. Although elder 2 were not reading fluently yet…well ya they were 5 when we went for the registration, I didnt expect them to be able to read the textbooks. I was really happy that the principal didnt mind us giving a try. In fact she mentioned, even they cant read the textbook well…insha Allah they will still learn a thing or two during the daily explanation by the ustaz and ustazah. That was exactly what i wanted, some daily “injection” of Islamic teaching. Yes, they were in islamic preschool, but why not something extra if there is opportunity. Hmm, now i sound like a kiasu, gung-ho mom huh? I didnt put any pressure in them (well at least thats what i feel, hahaha). My main reason for sending them is to ease their transition from preschool into primary later in 2014. In their preschool, they are so used to smaller ration in a class, no homework n no examinations. Hoping the exposure of this would help them later in primary.
The only problem we had was the logistic, alhamdulillah we managed. This is the part when people say “are you crazy? they are only 6 years old!” Their preschool finishes at 230pm and their sekolah agama starts at 430pm. Preschool is in Kota Damansara by the time they put on their shoes, get in the car its about 240-245 and we reached home at about 3-315pm. Thats an hour before we leave the house again BUT Uzair finishes his school at 430pm in Kelana Jaya. Thus i have to send them to sekolah agama earlier so i can be in time to fetch Uzair in Kelana Jaya. Thus we usually leave the house at 350pm. Once we reach home from preschool, just enough time for me to solat and get them changed for sekolah agama. The first few months, instead of balik rumah, we transit somewhere (OU / Ikano / Curve) coz i was afraid once sampai rumah, kids liat nak keluar rumah again sbb baru dpt duduk for 30mins or so. Sekolah agama supposedly to end at 630pm but often it ends at 645pm. Their school is in Mutiara Damansara, although its less than 10mins away from my house, but because of the office hours traffic, i need to leave the house by before 6pm, reached there early and wait. If i were to leave the house after 6pm i ended up reaching there at 650pm or later. And by the time we sampai rumah that would be after 7pm. So yes, basically the kids are out from 815am – 7pm. Now you can see why people say im crazy, dont you? But Mashaa Allah these kids are bless with so much energy…if it were not because they were force to go to bed, they ended up sleeping at 11pm. That’s how much energy they are bless with.
As much as i guess, athirah had couple of phase where she didnt want to go to sekolah agama; when it involves lots of writing. We introduce it slowly to her, hoping this exposure will not make her shock later in primary.
When their 1st semester exam started, i didnt even know. Suddenly harith said to me “tadi we had exam”. When i asked the ustaz, apparently dah 2nd day exam, 2 more days to go. Revision was made after maghrib. Super madness, out for school from 8-7pm, balik sambung lagi revision. For the exams, they came back telling me they know the answer tapi dont know how to spell. Harith and Athirah got 9th and 11th placing respectively out of 15 students. I was happy the teachers and principal were okay with it, despite them still have not master reading and writing at that time, they didnt mind having them in primary 1 and not push them into preschool KAFA.
For their year end exam, i was more prepared. Haha, mak budak pulak yg more prepared. Since its too much to get them to do revision at night after whole day at school, thus what we did was revision during the transit. We got the keys to our apartment already by then, but no furniture yet. We transit they, did our revision on the floor. We also did transit at kedai makan, some lil reward makan dessert for the kids.
Ending my post with another instgram related to this subject:
“Last week I mention, i wasnt sure if it was the right desivion to send elder 2 for sekolah agama standard 1 at age 6. first few months were a struggle for them as they have not master reading fluently.
We had our fair share of tears where athirah refused to go to sek agama. We passed that phase with lots chipsmore and vitagen as umpan. They survived their first term exam, harith and athirah got number 9th and 11 respectively out of 13 students.
Alhamdulillah the teachers didnt judge them too early, I was afraid ustaz/ ustazah might say they are not ready for standard one and to go for preschool KAFA.
We did their revision for final exam during the exam week itself. We have 2 hours to kill after preschool. Most days we did revision at our empty new home, twice we had it as a coffee place as reward / motivation.
All the tears and sweat paid off! Harith came home with his report card. Mashaa Allah, he got number 1!
Athirah at number 9. Alhamdulillah.
Funny though, his understanding of number 1 was “Harith dapat number 1 coz harith finish first”.
Lesson learnt, dont judge a child too soon. “
Some bloom later than others.
**photos taken using phone
Posted by admin on Dec 28, 2013 in Uncategorized | 2 comments
So much happen that made me neglect my blog. I had problem with my laptop, it often hang. Didnt send it for repair coz it took quite awhile for me to transfer everything into my external hard disk. The man who repaired the laptop said “ive never seen a laptop this bad” yes bak kate syauqi “i am THAT unorganised”, oppsss…I have too much on my plate i guess. And also because we are without maid since May. We decided to be without one coz we feel its better for the kids especially Uzair. Yes the house is a lil (okay, i lie… A LOT) untidy but we feel kids were oblivious to the privilege of living with domestic help. In school, every morning when i drop them off, i see them walk in the gate, place their shoes at their designated shoe rack, place their bags in their cubbies, took their communication book and place it on the table…and walk into the house (school). Everyday i see them doing it without any reminder. All it took is less then a minute and they are already in their classrooms. BUT why do i have to remind them EVERY SINGLE DAY once we reached home “carry your bags in” or else they will just walk out of the car without their bags. Then i would have to remind them to place their shoes properly. and despite me buying the same cabinet as the school for their cubbies, yet they needed reminder again and again “put your bags in the cubby” Why is it doable at school but not at home? Clearly because they have the maid to pick up after them. Masuk rumah, bag campak je kat tepi pintu, pastu maid amiq simpankan. I was dissapointed with the behaviour. Im not asking much, but some basic responsibility….things they do daily at school. Even their plates and cups, after each meal at school they wash their on plates ( for 6 years old. When they were 4 and 5 years, they just had to carry their plates to the basin). But why the need of constant reminder at home? That was the wake up call for me to discontinue our maid before these behaviours become habitual.
Of coz mom didnt agree with my decision, with 4 kids and syauqi often away. But when Uzair kept running to the maid whenever he doesn’t get his way, I knew for sure….thats it. With Uzair’s condition, we are trying to be firm with him and he is on a gluten free diet. The maid certainly not helping to make things easier for us. She has her own food ration she bought during her monthly outing, so kids get accessed to various kind of biscuit.
Its no doubt pretty hectic without maid, logistic was madness especially this year coz i decided to put elder 2 in sek agama KAFA standard 1 . Im not sure what made me put them into year 1 although they are 6 years old but im glad i came out with that motherly instinct decision, Alhamdulillah. This would require another entry on its own i think.
Oh with the Instagram, i think it has taken over my blog. Instagram should be with short captions, but mine ended up looking like a blog entry at times. haha. Im without any latest photo since i just got back my laptop, my dslr has been neglected too.
Will sign off this entry with one of my instagram cum blog entry:
Each time I walk pass here, it feels like im on a holiday, coz only when we are on a holiday we dont mind walking around under the heat, open air although its noon.
While walking just now, i realised my kids needed some break from their daily routine. It has been tough, logistic is a nightmare. I have no choice but to hurry them all the time; cepat, quick, faster, we are late are among the most common words used daily.
As a child i grew up pampered with the help of a maid around. and now, the decision not to have a maid for the family was the biggest sacrifice I would say. Whenever one sees me handling kids (Uzair especially), they usually say ” you need a helper” but truth is…because of Uzair’s condition we cant have a maid. We are trying to be firm with him…but often he gets his way with the maid. Its either he runs to the maid or the maid comes and pick him up. Imagine seeing the maid giving him a spoonful of raw sugar! when asked why?!?!?!?? “sebab die nak Cik”, besides tea and coffee…i have no idea what else happen behind the kitchen door.
It has been 6 months since we are maid less. Its tough but doable. Tough for Uwais especially, spending most of his time on the road with interrupted naps.
Just now I took a minute to “pause” our fast pace life. Told the kids, “go run, I will wait for you here “, they looked puzzled of coz. I smiled and nod my head, they surely did run around as fast as they could, to and fro…but this time voluntarily, not because mommy said “faster” / “quick” / “hurry up” but because they are having fun chasing one another. They are far end in this picture.
Rabbi yassir wala tu’assir, rabbi tammim bikhair
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